3 Things You Can Do Today To Develop Emotional Intelligence | Learning & Development | Primeast

Whether a person’s professional responsibilities lay in management, sales, HR, or back office, developing emotional intelligence is the key to performance today and growth in the future. There are tell-tale clues that your people lack emotional intelligence, and salespeople without the necessary soft skills often suffer from the common pitfalls of sales. While the observant manager will be able to identify the need for developing emotional intelligence, executives require the tools to do so.

Helping people become self-aware and developing emotional intelligence

The first step in developing emotional intelligence is to increase self-awareness. With self-awareness comes the ability to control emotions, stop reflex reactions, and begin to take control of events and situations. The first step to helping others become self-aware is to learn how to increase your own self-awareness:

  • Recognize the emotions that you experience
  • Understand how these emotions make you feel
  • Recognize the situations that affect your emotions
  • Understand the relationship between your emotions and your consequent actions

Develop self-awareness first

For the majority of people, self-awareness is not a natural trait. However, it can be developed using a variety of emotional intelligence training activities. The importance is to be able to determine your emotional strengths and weaknesses, and then developing those areas accordingly.

In order to achieve this greater understanding of yourself, you might decide to rate your own strengths, or ask others for their feedback, or perhaps complete a formal emotional intelligence test (or, best of all, use all three methods).

Three things to do today to increase self-awareness

Try these three simple strategies to increase your self-awareness. Start them today, and continue for a couple of weeks. You’ll be surprised at how much you find out about your own emotional intelligence:

1.      Keep a diary of your emotions

Write down in a diary what happened and how it made you feel. What actions did you take because of those feelings: this might be a response such as a verbal outburst, or a physical reaction such as an increased heart rate or sweating palms.

2.      Write down how your responsibilities make you feel

Think about the roles you have in your life, at work and at home. You might be a parent, sibling, captain of a sports team, member of a community group, and so on. Now consider how each role makes you feel. Does it make you happy, frustrated, or nervous, for example? Think of as many roles and associated feelings as you can. Again, write tis down to solidify your thoughts.

3.      Now, predict your emotional response

As you develop the above lists, you’ll be able to begin predicting how you will respond to different events and situations. Write down what you consider will be your response before the event. If you know how you are likely to react, you will be better able to control those reactions.

The benefits of developing emotional intelligence

Being self-aware is the foundation for emotional intelligence, and it is this that empowers the individual to improve at home and at work, experience a better life/work balance, and also accept and embrace change.

Accelerate your self-awareness and emotional intelligence

Self-awareness increases the ability to communicate effectively and lead teams in day-to-day activities and through periods of change. Coaching of soft skillsets including emotional intelligence runs throughout the Primeast executive coaching programs. Fully customizable, at the outset we identify the coaching goals of the individual and the sponsor and enabling the program to:

•     Improve the interpersonal skills of the leader

  • Find a better way to reduce stress, increase effectiveness and obtain a great life

•     Nurture the competencies to be coaches to their employees and foster greater engagement

•     Create organizational cultures that value learning, coaching and continuous improvement

•     Create better collaboration with other leaders/managers, creating a high performing management team

When helping to identify and develop self-awareness issues, we’ll also use a range of assessment tools and techniques such as:

  • Myers Briggs Type Indicator
  • Thomas Kilmann Conflict Styles
  • DISC Communication Styles
  • Personal Motivators and Engagement - Values Assessment
  • EQi
  • Energy Leadership Index

Contact Primeast today, and we’ll help you discover how developing emotional intelligence will benefit your executives, their teams, and your business.

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